Monday 24th of April 2023 Hi, my beautiful followers and supporters. It’s been a while since I last wrote a blog for you all. To say I’ve had a turbulent time trying to get to a point where I feel like I am motivated enough every day to keep pursuing my dreams has been complicated, but I do feel like I am getting there now. So a question I have kept asking myself recently is, “When am I too old for this?” to some, this may seem like a silly question to ask yourself when you’re only 25 years young. I’ll explain why, and it is actually a lot easier to understand than you may think. In the music industry, once you hit the age of 25, you’re pretty much considered ‘Old
news’, and quite honestly, I think that ideology has been one of the main reasons I’ve not allowed myself to reach my full potential.
It can be a super daunting feeling like the years are counting down to your ‘Expiration date’, and It has been challenging not putting any pressure on myself to achieve XYZ. But in all honesty, now that I’ve reached this milestone in my life, I don’t feel like it’s over for me. In fact, I feel a new sense of purpose. All that pressure I put on myself in my teenage years to achieve all these milestones I thought were necessary for acceptance in the music industry is quite frankly detrimental to one's mental health. It would explain why I actually often opted to not do things because I feared failure so much. I know you must be wondering why I’m making such a statement when I’ve
always been so pro-positive attitude about every downfall we face as individuals, but the mask you feel you have to wear to fit into brackets that professionals deem acceptable is yet another pressure we face as artists.
So how can you keep going without fear of “Never making it”? Well, really, that whole statement in itself is what is so wrong with music industry culture these days. When I was a child and had very quickly made up my mind that I wanted to be a singer, did I think about failure? Did I think about the possibility of wasting my time singing and writing music?
Did I fear not making any money? We all know the answer is no. Because when we are children, we dream of whom we are going to be and whether you dreamed to be more successful than you are right now or not, trust me when I say that your younger self could never comprehend the experiences and achievements that you have had. Simply put, as we get older or expectations change, we become harsher on ourselves due to not seeing our full potential. We’ve all compared ourselves to another artist at some point, and this is exactly what I mean. It’s all smoke and mirrors, but we still hold ourselves to that standard. My motto moving forward is to seek out what we fear and always to ask yourself what your younger self would say. I know for a FACT that my younger self wouldn’t ever care what age I am or how much time I have left; they would have just lived for the moment. Advice for this week - Live for now and say yes to every opportunity. Stop fearing what could be.
